*The article is developed in partnership with BetterHelp

Relationships can be challenging, and everyone experiences conflicts at some point. But there are mentally healthy ways to resolve conflicts and grow closer to your partner, often with the guidance of a therapist.

Whether you’re just starting to consider counseling or you’ve already decided your relationship could benefit from more guidance, it’s important to weigh your options. If you’ve been considering couples counseling, check out this revealing BetterHelp guide to using the Regain app for couples therapy.

In this article, we’ll look at some of the helpful concepts couples learn more about in therapy to increase their sense of love and happiness together.

Communication Skills

Even though we may find ourselves largely agreeing with our partners, differences in the ways we communicate can become a source of conflict. Some people have higher needs regarding the frequency they would like their partner to express affection. Others tend to go into a pattern of avoidance when challenging issues arise.


The fact is that we all have different comfort levels in the way and frequency we express our emotions, as well as demonstrate affection verbally. It can be helpful and encouraging to understand that something hurtful your partner does may be due to their upbringing or the way they were taught, and that it doesn’t reflect on you.

Learning To Be More Accepting

No one likes feeling judged, yet some people can be determined to be right. What this almost inevitably leads to is someone else feeling wrong. Being more open and less judgmental about how your partner may think or act differently can be key. When people feel more open and able to express themselves safely, it can lead to more honesty and intimacy.

Being more accepting of your partner may also point to ways you can become kinder and more accepting toward yourself. The result can be more joy in life and your relationship. 

Family Patterns

Exploring the reasons behind why you relate the way you do can lead to emotional breakthroughs and new levels of intimacy. Even though something may feel hurtful to you, it may be something that was quite normal in your partner’s family growing up.

Often the process of examining our family patterns begins with understanding more about your attachment style and that of your partner’s. There are four primary attachment styles:

  • Anxious attachment – As babies, these people would become upset when their parents left. Yet, these babies were still difficult to comfort upon their return.
  • Avoidant attachment – These babies tended to be stoic or almost non-reactive to parents.
  • Secure attachment – These babies became upset when the parent left, and were comforted by their return.
  • Disorganized attachment – As babies, these people tended to freeze or didn’t know how to react to parental love.

Learning more about your partner’s family patterns can be one of the keys to unlocking your family’s future happiness and success.

In Conclusion Feeling conflict can be a signal that this is a potential area for growth between you and someone you care about. Opting for couples counseling with your partner may be a way to become closer to each other and reach your relationship goal