‘’I wish I could be confident like you’’.
‘’So jealous that you can wear that and look great’’.
‘You’re stunning, just beautiful’’.
These are lovely comments right? When I get comments like this on blog posts or social media I almost have to double check that these comments are being made to me and I’m not on someone else’s profile. It can be hard believe in yourself, having confidence and in particular embracing the way you look, especially if you’ve battled to change for years. My last blog style post really broke a boundary for me and I just wanted to share a couple of tips on how to work towards being self-confident. (It’s always a work in progress, there are no overnight recipes to success with emotions and feelings!)
Super Fabulous – Believe That You Are
Self-Affirmation
Trust me, if you STOP body shaming YOURSELF, you’ll realise that most people don’t actually see what you think you see. Start looking in the mirror, picking out things which you like about yourself and work on those. Love you hair? Do a different style, look after it, condition it and soak up the compliments. The same works for everything else. Think you have pretty good legs? Moisturise them, scrub them, look after them and make an effort to show them off. Slowly you’ll be looking at parts of you and realising you naturally feel more confident. This isn’t easy, don’t get it twisted. But it’s something to work towards every day when you wake up. Tell yourself you’re great, today and every day.
Positive Comparison
People say you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. I disagree as long as it’s positive. For example, finding other plus size bloggers, plus size models and a huge plus size community full stop has made me feel that I am not alone. You’ll be surprised how much the media influences you’re judgements and when you revert back to real life slightly there are a host of confident, amazing people just like you. They might have the same shape, size, skin colour, hair colour, style, voice (the list goes on) as you, but it almost gives you a role model to look at. Someone you can relate to and think, hold on a damn second. If that person looks amazing / beautiful / confident / happy… whatever it is… then I can too. Trust me. Take a look on social media and see what’s out there. You’ll be surprised that you might just end up being someone’s inspiration.
The Bigger Picture
There is so much out there. My confidence journey means I feel a little more of an inner peace. I guess it’s a sense of spiritualism. Forgetting what you have always been told is right and accepting things for how they are. Including you! Doing things for you rather than other people acceptance suddenly makes a huge difference to your confidence journey. It’s not always easy to do this and I completely understand that. But just starting, taking small steps will make a huge difference to feeling content within you. You have to believe that positivity energy brings positive things. Don’t spend your time worrying that you’re not good enough. Turn that time into remembering you’re good enough.
The Best Is Yet To Come
Like I said, self-confidence is a total work in progress. You’ve read little things on my blog about how I covered my arms up for 3 or 4 years but now I’m slowly getting to the point where I have them out in the warmer weather. I wouldn’t take full length pictures, and now… Well… if you’ve read other posts on my blog you know I love a good outfit post. Just keep believing in you.
