One thing I’ve realised this week is that you can’t do it all. Well. You can but you’ll run out of steam. Which is exactly what happened to me this week. The last month or so I’ve worked really hard to stay up to date with work. Get our big house move started and of course keep our 1 year old entertained. Not to mention the fact I’m pregnant. So when I was encouraged by Time 4 Sleep to take a duvet day… I obviously obliged!
I can’t lie. I didn’t quite manage a whole duvet day. But I managed half of one and I did a little work in bed too, which was really nice. I think what’s so hard with taking some time out is that you’re constantly thinking about everything you need to do. I almost feel guilty when I’m having a little time out, which is why I rarely have any! With the help of a few duvet day essentials (books, magazine, tea and pillow mist) I took a couple of hours out to just relax. I think it’s a sign when a few minutes of silent time leads to a full on nap. Ooops!
Self-care comes in so many shapes and forms. What’s important is that you take some time out to focus on yourself. I mean how are you supposed to look after anyone else if you’re not looking after yourself? Exactly! I’m not exactly struggling to sleep right now. Give me 2 minutes in a comfortable chair and I’ll be gone. But it’s more finding the time to relax and chill out. I mean literally taking 30 minutes (or 3 days!) to yourself without the stress or guilt that you have 8487484 other things to be doing. So just to help you, and myself here is a short list of the things I plan on doing to help encourage more duvet days… or at least a little more ‘me’ time.
1. The Spot
Whether it’s the bath, your bed or even a cushion in the corner of your shed. Find a little spot that’s quiet, comfortable and nearby. It doesn’t have to be big. Just a little spot that is yours. It makes it easier to have that one spot because eventually you’ll associate it with peace and relaxation.
2. Deal With It
‘Me’ time doesn’t have to be about chilling out. It could be dealing with the thing that’s stressing you out. For example, finally changing those bed covers or sorting out your paperwork. Spend a little time sorting it out and it will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
What’s worked for my family since we’ve had Baby C is telling each other when we want some time out. If one of us is knackered or has some really important work to do we let each other know. Then one of us can crack on with whatever it is while the other does the parenting stuff. It help stop the guilt that you’re not pulling your weight and of course means interruptions are kept to a minimum.
I’m not going to lie. We have an epic bed. One of the best purchases we’ve ever made in our 8 years as a couple and I can’t see us beating it to be honest. If there’s one thing I recommend it’s to get a good bed. That duvet days is much more welcoming when your bed is a little bit of heaven.
How do you feel about duvet days? Do you ever get a chance to spend some time to focus on yourself and just chill out? Let me know how you make the time!