]Whether you’re getting ready for a job interview, psyching yourself up to try something new, or just want to feel more at ease in your day-to-day life, boosting your self-confidence can make a huge difference to how you feel. Luckily, this doesn’t have to be difficult, it does take practice and some days are harder than others. The key is to just keep trying. Here are nine ways to help boost your self-confidence.
Go out of your comfort zone
Meet new people, go to places you wouldn’t normally go, and push yourself to do the things that you want to do, but feel shy about. Going out of your comfort zone trains your brain to be more resilient (and less stressed) in unfamiliar situations. Trying lots of new things also helps make you a more knowledgeable, well-rounded person, which can boost your self-esteem and your social confidence. You’ll be surprised. The more you step out of your comfort zone the easier it gets.
Go clothes shopping
Although you don’t have to splash the cash, it can be worth going clothes shopping when you feel like you particularly need a burst of confidence — there’s nothing better than the feeling you have when you’re in an outfit which fits well, is stylish, and looks good. If you’re nervous about an event or a work occasion, a new outfit can ensure that you look and feel the part, which can help you feel more at ease. I did this recently and tried out Chicwe for the first time. I never would have tried leopard print years ago but now I’m in love with it. I went a step further with this Chicwe jumper because it’s got a really sharp red design to it. I absolutely love it. I stand out and you know what? It’s not a bad thing.
List the things that you like about yourself
A good confidence-boosting exercise is to take a sheet of paper and write a list of all the things you like about yourself. Whether it’s your caring nature, your mean Victoria sponge, or how fast you can run, take time to write everything down. When you’re done, pin the list somewhere where you can easily see it — on your bedroom wall, on the fridge, or behind your work desk. When your confidence is low, read through the list again to remind yourself of all the amazing things you can do.
Spend time with friends
Your friends are (or should be) your biggest fans. Make time to spend with them and you’ll boost your emotional well-being (more endorphins) and your confidence. If you find your friends are bringing you down — well, it might be time to make some new friends. Go back to point number one and try going to new evening classes, social meetups, or just try talking to strangers in public; you’ll be surprised how far it gets you. If you feel like your friends don’t support you, it may be time for a little rethink on your social circle.
Practice the things that make you nervous
If you’re aiming to be more self-confident in something specific — for example, giving presentations, talking to new people, or asserting yourself in the workplace — then practice makes perfect. If you’ve spent hours rehearsing a presentation, then you’re going to feel far more confident than if you made it up on the fly. Preparation is key here.
This is one of the hardest things to do, but it can be the most profound. Try to shut out negative thoughts; ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I’m not interesting enough’, ‘I’m not experienced enough’. Replace these with positive thoughts; ‘I’m interesting, and people want to hear what I have to say’, ‘I’m ready to learn and up for a challenge’. Self-confidence is all about what’s in your head, and you’ll find that if you think positive thoughts enough, you will start to really feel that way. I’ve done this over the last few years with what I wear. If I think someone is laughing or whispering about me, I try and turn it around in my head. They could actually be saying how FABULOUS I look! Turn the negatives to positive and see what happens.
Fake it till you make it
If you’re not quite feeling positive thoughts yet, though, using positive body language is the next best thing. Research indicates that body language can actually trigger the brain into feeling more self-confident; for example, putting on a fake smile can genuinely boost your mood, and using confident body language (stand tall, shoulders back, legs wide apart) can make you feel — as well as look — more confident.
Just like preparing for things that you find a little scary, one of the best ways to increase your self-confidence in the long term is to be in control of your own life. Being independent and secure in your own skin is a firm step on the road to self-confidence; think about your life holistically, and be true to yourself. What do you want? Who do you want to be? Answer these questions and you may feel many things start to fall into place. Do the things that make you happy. Say no to the things that make you feel anxious all the time. Choose what you push yourself on and don’t let others dictate how you should be.
As I said, it doesn’t happen overnight but is you start putting these things into place, slowly you’ll feel more confident.
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